Comments on: 34. Limerance

By: tribe.net: www.financialorganizing.info

tribe.net: www.financialorganizing.info — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 19:12:46 +0000

Limerence redefined in new book…

Have any of you read David Brooks book ‘The Social Animal: The Hidden Sources……

By: Susan Tiner

Susan Tiner — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 17:25:09 +0000

Hi Annie,
I wish I could offer some words of wisdom but I don’t know anything about bi-polar disorder or how it may affect one’s emotions when falling in love. As you noted, my post has to do with what Mr. Brooks writes about limerance in his new book, not the more traditional love sick interpretation — I don’t know anything about limerance in the context of romantic love. I am sorry to hear that you’re going through a difficult time. Breaking up is always hard. Thank you for your visit and your thoughts.

By: Annie

Annie — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 08:13:27 +0000

I stumbled upon this site, this blog, because I was reading an article about Love and breaking up, something that I’ve recently been going thru. And as someone that suffers from bi-polar disorder, it’s hard sometimes distinguishing if I’m making all these feelings and emotions up somehow, or getting carried away in the moment. Limerence popped up and I thought, that’s me they are talking about me. I’m sick, I love too much too quickly…But then I encounter Mr. Brooks take on Limerence, and his take comes from god, and I love god, Love is good, and yes when I fall in love, it is as if my skull disappears and I am only dealing with spirit, and it freaks my boyfriends out. They immediately think I want to get married and start a family. And I can 100% honestly say, I’ve never uttered those words to anyone, as a matter of fact, I’ve been engaged twice. And I got cold feet or as I realize now, it wasn’t Limerence. God bless you all, and if you have any words of advice, I’d love to hear them.

By: Susan Tiner

Susan Tiner — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 17:29:24 +0000

That’s interesting you’re thinking of reworking your style statement as I just worked out the words of my own for the first time and came up with Character Limerance as the 80/20 combination. That’s not quite right though. Maybe it’s Limerance Character. I would like to think I’m 80% about Character but in reality I’m just as much of a pleasure seeking hedonist as the next person. But in my fantasy life I’m Character Limerance.

By: Mardel

Mardel — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 17:12:43 +0000

It is a new word for me as well, and I am very intrigued by it. I may have to redo my style statement (which I need to do anyway) as I am questioning my words, “reverence” and “craft” which are tied together in my mind. Perhaps there is a better way of stating what I intended and was more foggy about at the time, as it was a foggy time of my life. Your post is making me rethink.

By: Susan Tiner

Susan Tiner — Thu, 07 Apr 2011 23:49:39 +0000

Hi Rose, yes, as others have noted, “flow” and “zone” are words used to describe the state of mind Brooks attributes to limerance. But he does seem to be talking about more than just flow — flow with passion. That’s closer to what I experience engaged in doing something I love.

By: RoseAG

RoseAG — Thu, 07 Apr 2011 23:17:07 +0000

I relate more to the wikipedia definition of limerance – disfunctional rapture.

Brooks definition strikes me as similar to the concept of “flow.”

By: Susan Tiner

Susan Tiner — Thu, 07 Apr 2011 18:13:28 +0000

I think I’m starting to get the hang of it, but don’t feel fully confident yet.

By: Susan Tiner

Susan Tiner — Thu, 07 Apr 2011 18:12:36 +0000

Hi Mona, I drool over roses and tulips and leaves and kitties too. xoxo

By: savvysavingbytes

savvysavingbytes — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 22:43:11 +0000

@Kerry: “For me, a big part of the upside of getting older is doing whatever the hell I want.”‘

Absolutely agree. In fact I think it’s the BEST part of hitting the so called “women of a certain age” gang.